Family Center - Tell it to Tillie

I think you were a little hard on the woman talking about the lot lizards. I am not saying what you said is wrong, you were really harsh, but straightforward. My husband has just become an over the road truck driver and I am very worried about the same problem. Do I trust him, yes, but only to a certain point. I think she just needed a little sympathy.

I can be a little more blunt than most but the thing is, I deal with reality in my life. A relationship has to have a foundation of trust. I’ve seen the police mug shots of lot lizards. Personally, it is my opinion a man would have to be pretty hard up. They are nasty. As for my response to the last woman, simple, stop asking for the government or police to take over more and more of our lives. We all need to take more responsibility for our choices and actions. Her ex made a bad choice. Don’t blame anyone but him. It certainly wasn’t the fault of the police he did what he did. He not only broke her trust but the law.

My boyfriend and I have been trying to figure out if it is possible to take an infant on the truck with us. The baby is five months old and would have to be in a car seat. Is there anywhere besides the passenger seat to buckle the carrier in? Do other people have babies on there trucks?

OK, this response is going to generate “You are so mean” emails. Trucking is a job. Not a sight seeing trip or vacation. You do not take your children to work—especially an infant. A baby needs stability and a schedule. There is not a real schedule in trucking over the road. You drive/work when the loads require you to. Do this: spend a week living in your bathroom. It’s about the size of the cab of a truck. Eat there, sleep there. Live in it. Also consider that on the road, medical care is at times hard to find. What happens if the baby gets sick? Also, go to a truck stop and look around—not everyone you will see there are people you will want around your child. If you absolutely must go on the road together, give custody of the child to someone who can provide a safe stable environment for him or her while you are over the road. Taking a young child on the road is selfish and dangerous.