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Hello again. I haven't written in a while, but I do have something to say now. For the last month or so I have caught myself driving way too fast in my personal car.

My husband, when he is home, harasses me about it all the time. He would say: "Your going to get in an accident or get a ticket. How do you think I would feel if they call me and say I no longer have a wife." Wow! Well I didn't heed his warning. Last week I did, in fact, get a ticket. I said all of that to say this: Slow down! I am so glad I got the ticket before I got a plot in the ground. I am 55 all the way to work now. I get flipped off and passed a lot, but at least I will be here when my husband gets home from off the road. The police really are our friends. They might be annoying at times but they, like us, are doing their jobs.

On a another note:

Are you aware that there are no laws to protect women on rural roads? If an officer of the law decides to pull you over at night on a rural road you have to comply then and there, even though you may not be or feel safe. You know as well as I do, that just because someone is an officer of the law doesn't mean they are a good person. Or it may not even be a real officer. There are weirdoes everywhere.

As the laws are written now, if you or your daughter or granddaughter saw the blue lights behind her and continued on until she found a well lit populated area, she could be arrested for evading the law. At the very least she would be harassed (surrounded by 3 or more officers) for not stopping.

Many states have laws on the books that say women alone on rural roads must turn on flashers, slow down, and continue on until they reach a safe, well-lit place. If possible, call 911 and let them know why you are not pulling over. They are not to be harassed when they do stop.

When I was growing up in California in the 1970s, I was reminded of three rules every time I left the house.

1. Never pick up hitchhikers.
2. If you get a flat tire on a rural road at night, keep going until you get somewhere safe.
3. Never stop for officers of the law until you are in a safe lit place. (Remember the stuff that happened in California in the 70s).

This issue needs to be addressed and soon before someone gets hurt. Please write to the lawmakers in your state so women can know they are safe. At the very least make sure that all law enforcement officers in your area are trained to be aware of woman's right to be in a well lit safe place before we pull over.

A Trucker's Wife is a column that is written by a different guest writer each month. If you would like to share your thoughts and feelings with other homefront spouses email us at imatruckerswife@layover.com .