Showtrucker....don't be defensive
It was meant as a tongue in cheek since I've married for love before and you see where it got me. Love has to be worked on and sometimes it grows shallow when life gets hard. Most people just want to bail out of marriage the second someone "better" comes along. And better isn't always better --- it's just a distraction from your current problems. So many people make marriage disposable. I am sitting here watching my ex and his girlfriend self-destruct and take a lot of people down with them -- including a total of 4 children, many in-laws and friends. They have lied, manipulated truths and feel no remorse. They believe they have love and that they were destined to be together. However, true love doesn't happen by manipulating it and "making it" happen. True love just happens and doesn't tear others apart in the process. True love is not built when it hurts people who care about you.
Money on the other hand, is simply a frame of reference used by most folks who have been hurt by love. It is oftentimes said that money can buy your happiness. Since love doesn't work ---- try money.
But you know something materials possessions are just that. They're no fun if you can't share them. That big house is empty with noone in it ST. Without love the biggest of homes are just a shell.
Money doesn't impress me. I've had it...and I've not had it. Either way, I can make my own happiness. But those people who are unhappy with themselves can never find happiness and have a tendency to show off their materials possessions to gain friendship and acceptance. But more often than not, they like to brag about their personal possessions because in the end they're the only one who cares about it.
However, I'm sick of putting my heart out and someone else crushing it. I have got some healing to do. I don't know your history or how you've ended up with such a run of bad luck all your life. But I do know that we sometimes put ourselves in compromising situations and then there are consequences to pay.
Just like my ex and his girlfriend/lover. There's noone to blame for their demise but themselves but yet they are reaching out and blaming anyone who is within calling distance.
I think outside of relationships - we all have a tendency to do this and not realize it.
But money......it's a temporary contentment. I could use some.